Personal Growth and Journey in Firearms Training

Focusing on Personal Growth During Training

During the training class, I was aware there would be a shoot-off event at the end of the course. However, I did not realize until later that I had performed well enough to become the runner-up for top shooter. Discovering this achievement was both a pleasant surprise and a meaningful testament to my progress and improvement as a shooter.

As I reflect on my very first firearms class in 2018, I remember a vital piece of advice from several of the instructors: do not pay attention to what other shooters are doing. Instead, follow the well-known saying, “just do you.” Taking this advice to heart allowed me to concentrate on my own development and skills, rather than comparing myself to others. When I am on the firing line, it is just me and the target — I am not concerned with who I am shooting against or how I rank. This approach helps me focus on self-improvement, build confidence, and enjoy the experience without unnecessary pressure.

Returning to Firearms Training

My return to firearms training began in 2018 and was not without its challenges. I wanted to establish a chapter of Armed Women of America, but to do so, I needed formal training in the form of either an NRA pistol instructor certification or a USCCA instructor certification.

At that time, I had not fired a gun in many years. Eager to get back into shooting, I began searching for a women’s-only class. This was important to me because I felt more comfortable learning in an environment specifically tailored for women, where I could focus on building my skills and confidence without additional pressure. Choosing a class designed for women made the experience more accessible and supportive as I restarted my training journey. It is important to understand that everyone’s experience is unique.

Embracing My Beginner Status

As a newcomer to semi-automatic firearms, I felt a genuine sense of apprehension about being “that” person in class — the one who might not know what they were doing or who might make a beginner’s mistake in front of others. While this fear made me hesitant at first, it also motivated me to dedicate myself to learning and improving. Entering a class as a beginner was intimidating, but I reminded myself that everyone has to start somewhere. The most important thing is to keep learning and moving forward.

I found a couple of women’s-only classes — one just a half-day’s drive away and another in a different state. Unfortunately, both classes were canceled due to weather or lack of enrollment. At this point, my husband encouraged me to enroll in a class he felt confident I would succeed in, and that had ongoing sessions. With my goals in mind and the journey ahead, I decided to sign up for a five-day class.

The class turned out to be both fulfilling and, at times, frustrating. The instructors were knowledgeable, patient, and truly enjoyed working with us. Looking back, I can’t recall what my specific expectations were, but the experience ended up being so positive that the instructors became like family to me, as did many others I met along my training journey. Some of my fondest memories are with instructors who believed in me even more than I believed in myself. These instructors truly understood me as a student and offered small but vital words of encouragement. Their thoughtful advice, often shared in quiet, personal moments, played a crucial role in boosting my confidence and supporting my continued growth.

Many people, especially women, tend to stop their firearms training after reaching the beginner level. At one facility where I have trained, it is common not to see women return after completing the basic class. This pattern highlights a significant challenge within the training community: initial enthusiasm does not always lead to ongoing participation or advanced skill development. For some women, taking even one class is a major accomplishment and should be celebrated as a win, while others may choose to continue their journey further.

Personal Achievements and Motivation

Participating in the shoot-off was an unforgettable experience. Although I did not win, finishing just a split second behind the winner, I am genuinely proud to have placed second. I know I gave my best effort, and my husband was equally proud and supportive throughout the competition.

When I started training, my personal goal was to reach the same level of skill as my husband, and I am proud to say that I have achieved that. Knowing I am equally capable gives me tremendous confidence. In a real-life situation, I know my husband can rely on me just as much as I rely on him — we have each other’s backs, no matter what.

We all have different goals and our journeys will differ, which means our training paths may also be unique. Some people are comfortable traveling for classes, while others prefer to stay close to home. Some may seek female trainers, while others look for instructors with military or law enforcement backgrounds. When considering your first self-defense course, think about your personal goal. Do you want to feel more confident carrying concealed? Are you hoping to meet like-minded women?

Understanding your motivation will help you choose the right path for your journey. Ask other instructors and shooters for their recommendations, training, and experiences. I am confident you can find exactly what you are looking for — I know I did.